Hi Mpb, Yes, I agree. I was thinking of myself, very selfishly and unkindly. I wrote this from the self-consumed perspective of someone inside of an affair. Maybe there’s another piece about what I imagine it’s like for him, to be on the receiving end of that. I think my husband would have a lot to say about what happened. This may not have come through, but several years later there’s not a day, literally, that I don’t wake up and feel terrible about what I did to this wonderful man.